Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Christian Victims

I started thinking about this today, and I have to ask:  Am I the only one who is sick of the Christian victim card being played?

Seriously... It seems like anytime someone challenges Christian beliefs or misrepresents those beliefs and it gets some amount of media or internet attention there are a ton of people who instantly jump on the I'm a Christian victim band wagon.

Why can't I just accept that there are those who do not love Christ like I do and let them make martyrs of themselves?  Is it somehow un-Christian to simply not drag myself into this crap?

Why don't we all give up that "card" and move on to just rejoicing in God and Christ.  God gave us a life to live and a Savior to worship (not to mourn).

~Danny

Saturday, December 10, 2011

Daddy: Day Two

Much more tired today.  Jenny only got a little touch of sleep last night.

Diapers don't bother me near as much as I had expected.  Smell or sight.  They always used to, but not now.  I'm guessing there is some sort of off switch in us for when it is our baby.  Cecily was the first child I ever changed and it wasn't hard even at first.  The toughest thing is keeping her legs under control when I'm working.  She's still a kicker. (Soccer player?)

We had our first pediatrician visit today.  All went well.  She's already gaining a little from when we brought her home. She went' from about 6 lbs 15 oz to 7 lbs 1 oz.  We were told that they can loose as much as 10% of their birth weight (she was 7 lbs 11 oz brand new).  At two weeks, she should be passing her birth weight.

Sleep is a luxury, but I can't seem to find myself partaking a lot when it's daylight.  I've been a stay-at-home-husband for almost four months now and I have this need to work when it's daylight.  So, I do dishes, laundry, cooking, and cleaning all day long like I did before.  Only, it isn't near as efficient.  One, because I'm so tired, and two, because every time Cecily makes a noise I run to investigate.

Cecily seems to be doing great.  She's awake when she should be and sleeps most of the day.  Feeding is regular at about 3 hour intervals and she's going through diapers just about how she should.  I don't want to jinx it, but I think we got a calm(er) one.

~DB

Friday, December 9, 2011

Daddy: Day One

I say day one, but Cecily was born almost four days ago now.  Today is the first full day at home, no nurses, just me and mommy.  So, officially, this is my first day to be daddy.

Tired doesn't really describe it.  Not because it's more or less than tired, but it's different.  I could sleep or rest if I really went at it, but with her in the house I feel a little more motivated to be awake to hear her cry if she needs us.

Coffee is good.  It helps.

Two things that I didn't expect in parenthood:

1) How easy it was to change diapers.  Of course, we are not to the point where she is doing the really nasty cottage cheese ones yet, but the chocolate syrup ones new borns produce are still pretty bad.  But, I'd never changed one before and it was surprisingly easy to do (and to stomach).

2) How automatic the protection urge is.  That's a bad description: "protection urge".  It's more like this need to make her happy.  She's not only old enough to really smile yet, but I still work really hard at it in such an automatic way.

Overall, it's going well.  Jenny is fine.  Cecily is fine.  Our dog, Fibber, is confused.  Life is good.

~DB

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

The Trophy Husband

Now that my wife is the bread winner for the family, I really like kidding her with this term.  It isn't entirely accurate if you consider I'm just more of a "house husband" than a trophy.

In the month or so that I've been unemployed I've made a lot of strides coming into my new role at home.  I'm still on the job hunt, but with the economy as it is, I'm not putting a lot of stock into being able to land a job that would either reverse the role or make it easier to be working when baby comes.

I do keep busy.  Running a home is a full time job as I am finding out.  I can't imagine how some people (my wife and I included) can pull it off without being home all the time.  No wonder cleaning services are still in high demand. 

Aside from just cleaning and laundry, I also have been devoting time to developing my music skills and working in my woodshop.  Both of these are passions of mine and I'm blessed that I can put myself into them.  The good thing is that I can offer lessons on guitar and ukulele and build things to sell online.  So, income, albeit small and infrequent, is still there.  Who knows; with time and effort these may turn into full time jobs themselves and get me and my wife closer to getting ourselves out of the suburban rut.

~DB

Saturday, September 10, 2011

Unemployment, Here I Am

As of August 25th, my previous employer no longer found any use for me.  I was given the week before hand to tie up loose ends and clean out my desk.  After seven years, I am no longer an insurance agent.

For my wife and I, this hasn't been too much of a shock.  We had planned our finances in such a way that if one of use lost their job, then we would be able to survive for a while.  Currently, we're doing fine.

For the last two weeks, I've spent adjusting to a house-husband life style.  It is a little bit of a change, but overall the days aren't too boring.  I am amazed at the amount of things that didn't get done around the house when there was no one to do them.  The house is as clean as it has ever been (except for today since it is a weekend and I take those off).

In the mean time, I'm filing for my unemployment benefits and job searching.  While in the search mode, I'm also trying to do a little bit of small business work.  Guitar and woodworking being as much a part of my life as they are, I'm doing my best to find an income using those skills.

Five biggest surprises of Unemployement:
  1. How much cleaner the house is day to day.
  2. How little you actually get from the state (I don't see how mortgages can be paid with this)
  3. How much I don't really miss work.
  4. Everyone has been super positive about the outlook.
  5. How great my wife has been with this.
Until I find gainful employment or I get an adequate income from self-employment, I'm pretty sure my wife and I will be making it okay.

~DB